Hey everyone! I'm in my late 30s, and I'm really struggling with my dad's decisions lately. He's 80 years old and seems to be making some pretty questionable choices about finances and health. My entire family has tried to talk some sense into him, but he just won't listen. When did you guys realize you were smarter or wiser than your parents? And how do you handle it when they don't accept your advice?
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I first noticed my parents' stubbornness when I was around 14. They often ignored my input, which was frustrating. By my 30s, I opted to respect their opinions but kept on the path of making sure they didn't do too much without my guidance. Ultimately, when it comes to the elderly not listening, let them face consequences. They'll learn the hard way if they need to.
Yeah, witnessing the consequences can be a reality check for them.
I thought my parents didn't know anything until like 17, but by the time I hit my late 20s, I realized they still had a lot of wisdom to share—even if they didn't see things my way. Winning those arguments isn't always about being right, but navigating the emotional landscape is tough, especially with the older generation. Sometimes, a calm conversation works better than a debate on who’s right.
Totally agree! It’s all about balance and finding that middle ground.
Just have to be patient and guide them, I suppose.
It's tough to watch your parents make poor decisions, especially when you know better. I remember feeling that way around 17, but it really hit home at 25 when I realized my parents were far wiser than I ever gave them credit for. It might help to suggest they see a doctor if you're worried it could be dementia or just stubbornness.
It seems like patience is key here. Just try to stay calm during the discussions.
That's a good point! Sometimes a professional can really help in these situations.
That approach sounds wise. Sometimes they just need to experience the outcome to understand.