I'm in a great relationship with a girl I really care about, but I have a huge issue - I can't stand the thought of touching her vagina. I'm totally straight and enjoy sex with women, but I feel grossed out by that part of their bodies. It's become a problem in my current relationship because I know my aversion to it makes my girlfriend uncomfortable. I don't want her to feel rejected or hurt, especially when I truly like her, but I can't help this feeling. I know many guys are comfortable with this, and I don't want to lose her over my hang-ups. Any advice on how to get over this disgust? I'm open to hearing from anyone, especially women who might have some insight.
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This isn't as uncommon as you think. Sometimes disgust is tied to personal experiences or societal norms. I’d suggest having open conversations with your partner about how you feel. It could also help to explore your feelings creatively or through therapy. Plus, being honest with your girlfriend about your journey is essential; it can bring you closer instead of pushing you apart.
Thanks, I’ll try to be more open about it.
I kind of relate to what you're saying. While I find vaginas attractive, I've also known people who felt really put off by them for various reasons. It could be a sensory issue or something more psychological. Exploring that aversion rather than forcing it can be key. It’s like, if you can find a way to see it as part of the woman you love, it might shift your perception. Maybe try gradually introducing it in a way that feels comfortable rather than diving straight in?
Absolutely, taking small steps sounds more manageable than forcing myself.
Yeah, that's a good point. It might help to approach it gently and not rush it.
It's important to understand where that disgust is coming from. Maybe it's connected to past experiences or negative associations? If you don't mind me saying, it kind of reminds me of someone claiming to love coffee but feeling nauseous when drinking it. If you're really struggling, even if it feels tough, talking to a therapist can be incredibly helpful. They can help you explore those feelings and maybe change your perspective.
That makes sense. Sometimes our feelings are tied to deeper issues we might not be aware of.
I definitely think it would be good to speak with someone who can guide me through this.
Exactly! Honesty can lead to better intimacy in the relationship.