I'm curious about the etiquette of intimacy here. Specifically, I'm wondering if I need to ask my girlfriend for permission before biting her really hard on the ass. I'm not talking about just a little love bite—I'm thinking of one that's hard enough to leave a mark. I feel like if I ask her about it beforehand, it takes away the surprise and she might not be into the idea. But if I do it spontaneously in the heat of the moment, she might actually enjoy it. What do you all think?
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Absolutely, you need to ask for consent before doing anything like that. Biting someone hard enough to leave a mark isn’t something you should spring on them out of nowhere. It’s important to communicate about these things beforehand so both partners are on the same page and comfortable. Otherwise, you could really hurt her feelings—and possibly damage the trust in your relationship.
Exactly! Consent is super important. It’s not just about whether or not she enjoys it but also about making sure you both respect each other's boundaries. You definitely want to avoid any scenarios that could lead to misunderstandings during something as intimate as sex.
Yeah, man, you need to create a safe space for discussing kinks and boundaries. Sure, some people enjoy a little rough play, but it really has to be mutual. Try bringing it up casually outside of a sexual context first—ask her how she feels about biting during sex. If she’s into it, you can always keep the element of surprise by not giving specifics about when you'd do it.
Exactly! Keeping an open line of communication can make the actual moment more enjoyable for both of you. You'll be surprised at how much trust and comfort that builds.
Right? It's key to know your partner's comfort level before you dive into anything that could hurt them.
This is a hard "yes, ask first" from me. Communication about kinks and boundaries is crucial. What might feel good for you could be upsetting or painful for her. Make sure you're both having fun and are comfortable! It's worth a little awkwardness beforehand to make the experience enjoyable for both of you during sexy time.
Agreed! It just fosters a healthier dynamic. Would you want to be surprised with something that could potentially hurt you? Better to chat it through first.
Exactly! Open dialogue makes all the difference. It can be super hot to know you both have explored these things together.
Totally agree! Establishing ground rules outside of the bedroom makes it way easier to explore when you're actually in the heat of the moment.