I'm really struggling with our house. We bought it in 2016, knowing it had foundation issues, but it was the only place that fit our needs in this neighborhood. The plan was to fix the foundation right away, but life got in the way. Since moving in, I've realized the house needs way more work than anticipated. I went back to school while juggling a husband with a disability and two toddlers, and it has been really hard.
After graduating, I started tackling the house on my own—but I only ended up making things worse. The new vinyl plank flooring is coming apart, and I have no idea if it's the foundation causing problems or if I messed up the installation. Now, I won't even let people in my home because it's so discouraging. I'm also battling severe anxiety and depression, exacerbated by financial stress. I'm in a debt consolidation program, but that limits my options for getting loans to fix the house, and I feel hopeless.
All I want is a comfortable home for my kids, where they can have friends over and feel proud. The other day, my son came home from a friend's fancy house, and it hit me hard. I just want to do better for my family.
I'm at a loss and need advice on how to approach fixing up my home without wasting money on projects I might regret. I'm not good at visualizing how to make spaces work, and I've stopped trying because of my discouragement. If anyone has faced similar challenges or has tips, I would really appreciate it.
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One option to consider is selling the house as is. I know it sounds daunting, especially with the condition you're describing, but sometimes a contractor or someone DIY-inclined might see potential where you don't. You could even get a real estate agent to help sell it with clean photos and a deep clean, which could work out in your favor financially since you bought it in a good market. Then, you could find a place that might require less work.
Don't be too hard on yourself; every homeowner has made mistakes, even pros! It sounds like you've already learned a lot. Just remember, take it one project at a time. Start with things that need immediate attention for safety, like the foundation. When in doubt, ask for help to get a real assessment from an engineer before proceeding with any major projects. And for your kiddos, focus on creating memories rather than a picture-perfect house; that's what they'll remember most!
That’s great advice! I definitely need to remember that my kids will remember the moments most, not the house.
It can be really overwhelming to manage everything alone, especially when trying to fix up your home. Have you thought about inviting a friend or family member to help with projects? Sometimes, just having someone around can make a big difference. Also, consider tackling smaller projects first that can boost your mood—like just repainting or rearranging furniture! Focus on basics and essential fixes like the foundation first, then you can get to the aesthetic stuff later.
I needed to hear that! It’s so easy to get lost in all the huge tasks, but starting small can really help.
I hear you, but I worry that the selling price wouldn't cover your debts. Selling low isn't a great option either.