I've been dating my girlfriend for about three months now, and while we have a physical relationship, I'm starting to wonder if she really loves me despite her saying it often. For context, I'm 22 and she's 19. I threw her a surprise for our one-month anniversary, but she didn't even get me a birthday present, which really bothers me. I'm concerned that she might not see love the same way I do, especially since she's been in local bikini magazines and seems to have a lot of male attention. Can someone at her age truly understand love? What are the signs that she's genuinely invested in this relationship?
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Dude, at 22, I didn't even know what love was yet. It takes time to figure it out. Don't stress too much about her not getting you a present; sometimes people show affection in different ways. Just enjoy your time together, and you can always communicate your feelings to her.
You sound a bit insecure about where you stand with her. Three months isn’t a long time to know someone deeply, and people express love in different ways. It might be worth bringing up how you feel and seeing what she says. It's all about communication!
Honestly, if you're feeling like she didn't think of you on your birthday, that can be a red flag. Pay attention to how she treats you overall and take note of whether her words match her actions.
Seems like she might have a different take on relationships. You’re obviously thinking about birthdays and milestones, but if she's not on the same page, that could lead to issues. Just discuss how you feel without being confrontational, and see where it leads.
You're still getting to know each other, so don’t overthink it too much just yet. Maybe give it some time, and focus on enjoying the journey. You can also read about love languages to help understand how to express and receive love better.
Follow your gut. If something feels off, it's okay to take a step back. Relationships take effort from both sides. If she’s not putting in the same energy as you, it might be time to reevaluate. Ask yourself if you feel valued overall in the relationship.
Look, if you aren't feeling it from her, just ask her why she didn’t recognize your birthday. You both are still young and figuring each other out. It's totally normal to question things right now. Just express what you feel respectfully and see her response.
You're at an age where love is often mixed with infatuation. Just take things slow. If she really cares, she'll acknowledge that she didn't celebrate your birthday and you’ll figure things out together.