As I navigate through life and interact with more people, I've noticed certain individuals tend to make it tough to get things done. This can range from a dismissive salesperson to a healthcare provider who seems to do just enough to get by. I'd love some strategies on how to effectively deal with this gatekeeping behavior. What can I do to overcome these obstacles?
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One approach I've found effective is to be a little more persistent than those folks are at avoiding their job - but do it politely! A lot of people don’t want to flat out say 'no' or refuse to help. So, keep it lighthearted and friendly. If you do this, they might start to realize that it’s easier for them to just do their job rather than deal with someone who's not going away. Just remember, being rude can backfire and give them a reason to shut down even more.
It's helpful to figure out why someone might be gatekeeping or acting in a way that blocks you. When I meet resistance, I try to get into their mindset. Think about how you can make them want to help you. For example:
1. Understand their perspective.
2. Find ways to assist them.
3. Unite against the problem instead of facing off against each other. Sometimes, it’s about negotiation techniques that can remind them we’re on the same side!
There are moments when you might just hit a wall, and that's okay. But I've noticed that a calm and friendly demeanor usually works better than frustration or pleading. People are just doing their jobs, often without having a say in the rules themselves. Accept that sometimes you’ll walk away empty-handed, but showing appreciation for their effort can go a long way.