Hey everyone, my girlfriend recently told me she loves me for the first time, and I thought I'd lighten the mood with a joke, replying with "I do, too." But now, she hasn't spoken to me in two days, and I'm worried I messed things up. I didn't think she'd take it so seriously. Is she just cooling off, or is this a significant red flag in our relationship? I sent her a text apologizing, but she hasn't responded. Any thoughts on what to do?
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It sounds like your girlfriend was being really vulnerable when she said she loved you, and making a joke about it probably hurt her feelings. You should give her some space to process this. If you truly care about her, think about how you can make it up to her, like with her favorite food or just a heartfelt note. It might be a tough situation, but showing that you care can go a long way in mending things.
Honestly, ad-mile you might view the ghosting as a red flag, it seems more like you hurt her feelings and now she's processing it. Relationship struggles sometimes reveal more about how each person communicates. If she doesn't respond, don’t let it get to you too much; reaching out once to apologize was enough. However, it could reveal issues with communication styles that you both need to address moving forward.
Did you guys have a history of saying "I love you" before? If it was the first time she said it, that probably made it more emotional for her. Joking in that moment might have felt dismissive to her. If so, it’s important to be sincere when expressing feelings, especially if she took the plunge to share hers. She might just need some time to cool off.