Hey everyone, I need some advice about a situation with my fiancé. We bought our first house together last fall, and I've been looking forward to finally having a garden. I've put in a ton of effort this spring—researching, planting, and turning our yard into something beautiful. I even got my parents involved, who brought flowers from their home.
However, my fiancé has been anything but supportive. He often tells me that I shouldn't spend money on it and has criticized my gardening efforts. Just recently, while working on our fence, he accidentally dropped it on my flowers, and they got completely ruined. When I confronted him, he didn't seem to care and only said, 'Sorry, it was an accident.'
This has left me feeling really hurt, especially since I've worked so hard and invested so much into those plants. I've been wondering if this lack of support and respect is a sign of bigger issues in our relationship. Should I consider ending things with him over this? We've been together for seven years, and I really want your thoughts on it.
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I get that gardening is your thing, and that’s totally valid. However, it’s not okay for him to act like a jerk about it. Consider if he normally shows a lack of respect for your interests. If this is just one event in a long pattern of him being unsupportive, it might be time to evaluate whether this relationship is healthy for you. You deserve a partner who encourages you and cherishes what you love!
Honestly, it seems like this could be a sign of a bigger problem. If he disregards things that bring you joy, that’s a red flag. You should definitely have a heart-to-heart about how his actions affect you. Communication is key here. If he shuts down the conversation or is dismissive again, that could tell you all you need to know about your relationship’s future.
It sounds like there are some deeper issues at play here. If your fiancé is consistently dismissive of your passions, that’s concerning. It might be useful to talk to a trusted friend or a counselor to get a clearer perspective. Ultimately, you deserve to be with someone who respects your interests and supports you.
Exactly! A partner should lift you up, not tear down your interests. If this isn’t just a one-off situation and there’s a pattern, then it's definitely worth reevaluating things.